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Separation Anxiety

Discussion in 'Training & Behavior' started by Drgnrdr, Feb 2, 2008.

  1. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    A Guide for Preventing Development of the Syndrome, and Helping Dogs Who Suffer From It
    * What is Separation Anxiety?
    * What Causes Separation Anxiety?
    * Punishment Does Not Work
    * Preventing Separation Anxiety from Developing
    * Managing Separation Anxiety: How to Help Your Dog
    Foster self-assurance and a degree of independence
    Build tolerance to staying alone
    Take all excitement, fuss and drama out of departures and returns
    Uncoupling cues - easy technique to desensitize departures
    Establish a "safety cue"
    Timing attention
    Use training to build the dog's self-confidence:
    Create a safe haven
    Provide physical and mental stimulation
    Enrich the dog's environment
    Keep to a routine
    Don't let your dog train you
    * Before You Leave Your Dog Alone Each Day - Steps to Take
    * Extra Tips for Anxiety Barkers
    * Diet
    * Alternative Health Aids
    * Other Helpful Measures
    * Behavior Modification
    * Professional Help
    * Other Resources
    What is Separation Anxiety?
    Simply put, separation anxiety is a syndrome involving the display of panic symptoms in response to being left alone. Destructive behavior during owner's absence can signal boredom, need for more exercise, need for stimulation when gone, or deep anxieties.
    Dogs with separation anxiety exhibit distress in the form of behavior problems when left alone. Typically, they'll have a dramatic anxiety response within a short time after their owners leave them. Common distress symptoms include one or more of the following: scratching and digging near doors and windows in an attempt to escape and find their people ... chewing door frames or other items in an attempt to channel their anxiety ... barking, whining and howling in an attempt to summon their person ... excessive salivation ... chewing on or licking themselves ... and sometimes even urination and defecation due to the immense physiological effect of prolonged stress.
    Any or all of these symptoms indicate separation anxiety syndrome if they occur when the dog is left alone. Other signs sometimes associated separation anxiety include: the dog reacts frantically when his person arrives home; acts sad or frantic or starts drooling and panting when the person gets ready to leave the house; and/or follows his person and acts clingy much of the time the person is home.
    True clinical separation anxiety is not very common. However, many dogs do suffer from anxiety symptoms when they are separated from the people they perceive as their pack.

    What Causes Separation Anxiety?
    Separation anxiety can develop in dogs who have previously not spent much time alone ... who have been abandoned at key points in their psychological development ... who were not properly integrated into their first home and got relegated to a basement, garage or yard ... who were removed from mother and littermates too early (prior to 8 weeks of age) or too late (after 14 weeks) ... who have endured a traumatic event, such as a frightening experience at a shelter or kennel, or a significant change in their household, such as a new person joining the family, a move to another house, or change in the owner's work schedule. Some dogs tend to become extremely attached to their new person, and then insecure when that person leaves, as a result of losing a previous home and person to which he was attached.
    Separation anxiety also often plagues dogs in what behaviorist Larry Lachman terms a "triangled" situation -- dogs used as an emotional replacement or sponge for someone else in the family. The excessive attention and touching common to such relationships can result in over dependency, which can lead to a dog's inability to cope with the departure and/or absence of his special person.
    Even when not in such a dysfunctional relationship, dogs can develop anxiety responses due to their people lavishing too much attention (constant petting and rubbing, constant chatter, too much lap time, etc.) when they're home - thus creating a super-needy dog who can't occupy herself or even stand to be alone.
    It's not clear why some dogs suffer from separation anxiety while others exposed to similar experiences do not. Some experts believe that in some cases there may be a genetic predisposition. However, it is known that there are ways for owner/guardians to help ward off development of separation anxiety - and to help their dogs if symptoms are already evident. Experts also agree that separation anxiety is a panic reaction, and definitely not an attempt by the dog to "spite" their people.
    Punishment Does Not Work - Do Not Punish the Dog
    Punishment, yelling and ostracizing will not work to cure separation anxiety. Punishment will only aggravate the situation by raising the dog's overall anxiety and compounding it with fear of his owner. Remember that separation anxiety is a panic response, not behavior that the dog willfully engages in. Also remember that if you are stressed out, that will only add to your dog's anxiety. Stay calm and unemotional when dealing with bouts of separation anxiety.
    Preventing Separation Anxiety from Developing
    Dogs evolved as companions to people, and they are pack animals. However, owner/guardians need to help their dogs find a healthy balance between enjoying companionship and becoming sufficiently independent to tolerate being alone for periods of time.
    People must condition their dogs to stay calm when left alone. To condition means to get the dog used to specific things, situations and events. That's why it's important to practice leaving and returning to the dog frequently, starting when you first bring the dog into your home and family.
    * Teach your dog from the start that your leaving the house is an ordinary, regular event. Help your dog build tolerance for your departures and absences.
    When you first bring your dog home, take him in the yard first and then into the house. Inside the house, show him around. Particularly with a male dog, watch and be prepared to say "No!" or "Nah-ah-ahh!" at the first sign of the dog getting ready to lift his leg to mark something. Then offer the dog a treat for being good. Next, take him outside to go again and take him to the same potty spot. This helps him start learning the concept of "going outside".
    Have the dog's bed and bowl of water ready in a safe, well-lighted, comfortable confined area with "family smells", such as a gated-off kitchen, family room or crate placed in a family area. (Do not confine in basements, garages, storage rooms, or other non-family areas). This nice "den" will be the place in which she will stay when you are not home to supervise. Take her to that place, tell her lie down (guide her if she has not yet learned that command).
    Then give her one or two safe chew toys and praise her. You can couple a food treat with the verbal praise. In fact, it's helpful to keep a small bag of tiny tidbit treats on you at all times during the acclimation and training phases.
    Next, close the door or gate to the room or crate, and step back. See if she is staying calm. If so, resist the urge to talk to the dog, since that will distract her from this desired, calm, relaxed behavior.
    Leave the room for 5 seconds. Return. Gradually, increase the duration of your absence by very small increments.
    If she stays reasonably calm when separated from you for a minute or two, let her stay there as long as she seems comfortable. As soon as you notice any signs of the dog growing anxious or uncomfortable, take her outside again for a walk or a short play session.
    If the dog is good in her confined area, this is a very good sign. You can begin to add calm, quiet verbal praise and an occasional food treat to this acclimation routine as a reward for being good and calm in her confined area. When you release your dog from the room or crate, do so in a low-key manner; it's best to give no response at all when the dog comes out of the crate for the first minute or so. This is part of establishing the confined place as a secure den, vs. a jail from which she desires to escape.
    By the way, another good idea is to rotate the safe chew toys that you give your dog each day. Also, include interactive toys in the mix, such as Kong’s and Buster Cubes. (Details about using the hollow Kong toys appear later in this article.)
    Next, leave the room for increasingly longer periods.
    Realize that this important acclimation training will take some time and patience; you will need to repeat these activities for a few days in the effort to anxiety-proof your dog.
    Next step: leave the house and come back in right away. Progressively lengthen these outings until you can know that your dog displays no anxiety about your departures - which means she realizes that when you leave her, you always eventually return.
    Note: it is important, particularly during this acclimation phase, to make sure you do not leave your dog alone any longer than she can reasonably, comfortably wait to urinate. If you leave the dog alone so long that she feels discomfort about "holding it", or gets hungry, or gets scared, you are teaching her that she does have reason to worry when you leave. You, of course, want her to learn the opposite: that she can trust you, her leader, will always return in time to properly take care of her needs. Consistency is critical.
    Gradually lengthen your absences to 15 minutes, 30 minutes, and longer. Hopefully, she will not get anxious since you have been conditioning her to accept your absences as a normal part of life.
    She will learn to be confident that you will return, and also, she will learn that it is you, as pack leader, who decides what happens and when.
    It's good to stay in range the first few days of this acclimation exercise so that you can tell if and when your dog shows signs of anxiety.
    If at any point your dog begins showing anxiety about your departure, go back to a shorter absence and continue working to build her confidence. And at any time, now or after the acclimation phase, you come home and find that your dog experienced anxious behavior (through evidence of scratching, digging, chewing, barking, pools of drool, etc.) halve the time you leave the dog alone for awhile and work to increase the time increments slowly. If your dog continues displaying anxiety symptoms, cut the time in half again.
    This acclimation process is worth the time it takes, because starting out right will set the pace for your dog, accustom her to her "home-alone" environment, and help ward off potential adjustment problems. Because of the time that these acclimation exercises involve, it's usually best for working folks to arrange for some vacation time when getting a new dog, or to bring the dog home on a Friday just before your weekend begins.
    Attention is good, but you also need to educate your dog so that she's ready for your real-world routine. The common failure to help dogs adjust leads to unrealistic expectations - and often, anxiety when you suddenly leave on that first workday after getting the dog.
    In general, it is always best to set the ground rules upfront - and stick to them fairly and consistently. You can loosen up later if you wish, but tightening up is really hard after your dog is inadvertently conditioned to get out of control.
    * About crating: Your goal is to condition the dog to be relaxed and comfortable in a specific room or crate where he will remain while you are away. However, crating regularly for over 6 or so hours can be counterproductive and ineffective (even if the dog can hold his urine that long). Also, while you can use crates for time-outs, never banish dogs to crate as punishment. You want the crate to always have positive associations.
    Moreover, a crate should not be used for separation-anxious dogs unless the dog is FIRST gradually and successfully accustomed to spending time in the crate and then gradually, successfully accustomed to being alone in the crate - relaxed, not nervous or frantic. Many separation-anxious dogs cannot be crated when alone because it fuels their anxiety even more - and results in a substantial setback in the effort to condition the dog to accept your absences.
    If using a crate for your new pup or newly adopted dog, practice using the crate when you're home. Make the crate homey; place it in a pleasant family area with light and nice views.
    Some dogs like to see outside and for other, such visibility leads to over-excitement, so find out what works for your dog.
    To acclimate the dog to the crate from the start, show him that "all good things happen in the crate." Entice the dog into the crate and immediately provide a toy that contains something edible, such as a Kong stuffed with kibble adhered with some peanut butter, or a Buster Cube filled with kibble. One smart tip is to feed the dog a meal via the Kong or cube. Go sit down with a book or watch TV nearby. Let your dog out when he is calm and quiet. Resist the urge to let a dog out of a crate when barking or displaying other anxiety symptoms, because that rewards the unwanted behavior you're trying to avoid or eliminate.
    When acclimating your dog to a crate, give lots of positives for entering and staying calming in the crate. You don't even have to close the door each time, although you will want to practice getting the dog accustomed to the crate door being closed and latched.
    Give no response when the dog comes out of the crate for the first minute or so. Many people mistakenly give dogs a rousing, ebullient response when exiting the crate, but that tends to reinforce the idea that being out is infinitely better than being in. While the dog probably realizes this, you don't need to amplify the message. When crate training, you want the dog to think "this is my special place, and I like it here."
    Note: if your dog already has serious separation anxiety, don't use a crate; follow the tips in other sections of this guide.
    * Give your dog adequate exercise and playtime everyday. Dogs are social beings, so this activity is important not only to channel their physical energy, but also to engage their minds and meet their need for human companionship. Don't wait until your dog begs for attention. As leader, it is your job to initiate and lead the dog in play. As for walks, most dogs need two brisk leash-walks of at least 15 or 20 minutes each. Some dogs need more.
    * Avoid lavishing too much attention on your dog. Same goes for the wrong type of attention, such as overindulging with constant touching ... always having her in your lap, draped over you or leaning next to you ... placing the dog in elevated positions where humans customarily are (in the front seat of car, at the table, on the couch, in the human's bed) ... coddling (and thus rewarding) when she displays fearful or aggressive behavior. Other missteps to avoid: overly excited greetings when you arrive home from work ... petting the dog every time she demands it, such as by rubbing up against you or pushing her head against your hand ... letting your dog initiate play instead of the other way around.
    By creating a demand-lavish attention dynamic, you would inadvertently teach your dog to be far too dependent on you, increasing the chances the dog will suffer overwhelming anxiety when you're gone. There is a difference between unhealthy over dependence and healthy trust. You want to be the leader, you want the dog to trust, respect and listen to you, but you don't want the dog to become an emotional slave who can't bear to be alone.
    * Teach your dog to earn attention and praise by obliging your requests to sit, lie down or come when you tell him to.
    * Reward your dog for resting quietly in her place. Reward calm behavior with quiet attention and treats. This will help her associate her place, den or bed with serenity and security. Attention is often a highly motivational reward for good behavior.
    * Keep to a routine, at least until the dog fully adjusts to your home. Canines thrive on a routine, which also helps them learn that you come and go, you always return, and that he can count on getting attention, food and exercise each day -- avoiding and alleviating his anxiety.
    * Keep departures and returns low-key. Don't make a big show of leaving. Gather your items quietly, efficiently and matter-of-factly and quietly leave. Be aware that dogs are very sensitive to their owners' actions and activities. This includes an owner's "leaving routine": most dogs quickly pick up that when their person gets his shoes, coat, briefcase and keys and begins fiddling with lights, it means the person is departing for an extended period. And do not act anxious; anxiety is contagious.
    You can desensitize your dog to your departures with this following exercise. Note: this differs somewhat from the acclimation process described above, and can be used in conjunction with that more elaborate routine. Get ready to leave. Go to the door, but don't exit. Quietly move about, go back to the door, leave. Come back in. Ignore the dog during this exercise. Exit and enter several times, increasing the length of your absences from one minute to one hour.
    * Remember, it's unfair and unreasonable to expect a dog to hold his or her urine for much longer than 8 hours. Young dogs might be physically able "hold it" only 2 to 4 hours.
    Managing Separation Anxiety: How to Help Your Dog
    For most cases of separation anxiety, the following techniques will help. For severe problems, these techniques should be used along with a behavior modification program structured by a canine behaviorist (see links and resources near the end of this Tip sheet).
    Foster self-assurance and a degree of independence:
    Instill confidence and independence. Dogs need to find a balance between respecting their pack leader, enjoying companionship and handling solitude. "Don't let the dog follow you around the house," advises Los Angeles trainer Cinimon Clark. "He needs to learn to survive by himself." Teach and then frequently use the Down-Stay command. For instance, when you're washing dishes and the dog hovers next to you, instruct him to "down" on his blanket and "stay" there the entire time. Then release him and have some play time together.
    Insecure dogs tend to follow their people around the house, look anxious as the people prepare to leave, and become distraught when they are alone. They bark after their people leave, sometimes destroy things, and may even urinate or defecate out of anxiety.
    Often, it's tempting to give an anxious, insecure dog too much attention, but over-empathizing usually aggravates behavior problems. Insecure dogs need to be retrained to be independent, writes Dr. Nicholas Dodman in "The Dog Who Loved Too Much." It takes firm yet supportive leadership and clear direction to help your dog overcome this behavioral problem.
    Build tolerance to staying alone:
    * Retrain your dog to accept absences as an ordinary event, using the acclimation exercises in the "Preventing Separation Anxiety" section. For a dog who already displays separation anxiety, be prepared for using absences of shorter duration and working up to longer periods more slowly. Progressing too fast will lead to setbacks. The idea is to advance slowly enough to avoid the dog lapsing into anxious freak-outs.
    * After a few days of the leaving/return practice sessions, increase the duration of absences randomly so the dog can't guess when you will return.
    * Practice "fire drills": go out, return, sit, play a game, go out. Vary the time you are gone.
    * Reduce the contrast technique: canine behaviorist/author Larry Lachman explains that most separation-anxious dogs cannot tolerate the either-or conditions of attention when the owner is home vs. no attention when the owner leaves. So reduce the contrast: pick two days out of week when you are home. Ignore the dog for 6 to 8 hours on those days, to match the time you are away at work. Limit attention to only feeding or letting the dog out to potty during these sessions. Your dog will learn: "it's no big deal when my owner is gone; even when he's home, he still sometimes ignores me."
    Take all excitement, fuss and drama out of departures and returns:
    * Keep arrivals and departures low-key. No emotive goodbyes or effusive hello-I-missed-you's. In fact, it can be best to say nothing and avoid eye contact, totally ignoring your dog for 15 or 20 minutes before you leave the house and after you arrive home. After that, provided the dog is reasonably calm, then you can let her out of her safety room and calmly, quietly pet and praise her. For a dog who still displays significant anxiety, it's usually recommended to continue ignoring the dog until she totally settles down and begins to relax.
    Uncoupling cues - easy technique to desensitize departures:
    Dogs are extremely adept at reading body language. So chances are, your dog can easily tell the difference between your going outside to bring in the mail and your departure for work. Your dog will notice cues such as you pre-departure preparations -- getting your coat and bag, taking out keys, turning off lights. Separation-anxious dogs will respond by exhibiting anxiety signals such as whining, pacing, drooling, yelping and/or yipping.
    One way to reduce your dog's anxiety about being separated from you is to "uncouple the cues" -- engage in your pre-departure routines without always leaving the house. Put on your coat and rattle your keys at times other than when you are actually going out. Keep grabbing your coat and keys and putting them back down again until your dog doesn't bother getting excited anymore. Now you can start rewarding the dog for NOT responding to the stimulus; this is a form of shaping behavior.
    If there is something else that triggers your dog's anxiety over your leaving, such as putting on shoes by a door or switching lights on or off, throw these into the mix as well. This exercise will help desensitize your dog to the anxiety-starters that signal your imminent departure.
    Establish a "safety cue":
    A safety cue is a word, gesture, action or even a special toy that you teach the dog to associate with the idea that when you leave, you will always come back. Use the safety cue each time you leave the house, starting by cueing it to brief absences (such as taking out the trash or checking the mail box). Your safety cue might be gently saying "Take care of the house" ... a playing radio or tape ... or a distinctive chew toy.
    Start out using the safety cue during practice sessions. However, to establish the cue as an effective tool, do not use it when you're leaving for longer durations than your dog has learned to tolerate.
    Timing attention:
    As previously mentioned, some of our own behaviors as dog guardians can contribute to a dog's intolerance of being alone or ignored - such as constantly petting or fussing over the dog when we are home. If this sounds like your situation, try changing your behavior: always have your dog sit before giving attention and then only give 10 seconds of petting at a time. If he wants more, wait until he is not actively seeking it, have him sit again, and give him another 10 seconds of petting.
    Keep these additional tips in mind:
    * Ignore attention-seeking behaviors. Do not respond when the dog demands attention. This helps teach your dog that he can't manipulate you to get attention.
    * Yes, you can give your dog attention, but for the needy or separation-anxious dog, it's best if you initiate the attention, and as much as possible, tie attention to desired behaviors.
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  2. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    Sep.Anx pt 2

    * Instead of the dog initiating contact with you, strive daily to change the dynamic: you initiate the contact, be it playing, petting, deciding when to eat and take walks. The owner, as pack leader, should control the activities. If the owner controls activities in a manner that protects and meets the needs of the dog, the dog's trust in his person will increase and his insecurities will fade.
    "If he comes up to you for a pet, ignore him for about 3 minutes, or until he stops asking you, then ask him to come over and sit," suggests Cin Clark. "Now you can pet him. I use the command Enough' for stopping the petting. If he still tries to get your attention, walk away."
    * Ration attention out in small bits to ease your dog's dependence on you and other family members. Limit attention to times when the dog is engaged in a desirable behavior, such as resting calmly in her own spot (vs. draped over your lap), and when the dog responds to a verbal command or hand signal. Have him earn attention by telling him to "Sit" and "Down-Stay." When you give a separation-anxious dog attention, dole it out in very brief increments. One second can be enough.
    * Avoid letting the separation-anxious dog sit in your lap, drape herself over you, or rest in elevated, "human" places like the sofa. And don't let the dog sleep on the bed with you. He can be in the same room, just on his own bed. If she insists upon sneaking back into your bed, you can tie a long leash to a dresser. The idea is to foster some independence, so take these steps at least until your dog has overcome her separation anxiety problems.
    Use training to build the dog's self-confidence:
    * Teach Sit, Down and Stay. This can aid the effort to teach your dog how to relax in one spot when you leave. Reward your dog with positive reinforcement - praise, or praise plus treats - for staying calmly in a position for increasingly longer periods of time. Don't punish your dog for "not obeying." Just ignore incorrect responses, regain the dog's attention and continue.
    Gradually increase the distance you move away from your dog so that you can eventually move briefly out of your dog's sight while he remains in the "stay" position. The idea is to teach him that he can remain calmly, in a non-anxious state, in one place while you go to another. Take easy opportunities to practice. For instance, when you're watching TV with your dog nearby and you get up for a snack, tell your dog "stay." When you return, give him a tidbit and very gently praise him for obeying.
    When practicing these leaving/returning sessions, increase the duration of your absence randomly to prevent your dog from learning to guess when you will return.
    You are working to retrain your dog to listen to you and to be less clingy, aiding your effort to accustom your dog to being alone without getting frantic. Depending on your individual dog and the consistency of your training efforts, you should be able to move briefly out of your dog's sight after a few days.
    This exercise is an example of counter-conditioning - teaching a new behavior (such as Sit) that is counter to the previously ingrained behavior (such as trailing you). Then the new behavior substitutes for the old one when the dog is responding to a stimulus or event (such as your departure). As with most aspects of training dogs (or people), it is usually more effective to redirect the dog to a desirable/acceptable behavior than to get him to just "stop" engaging in an undesired behavior. By substituting something acceptable for something unwanted, you give him an outlet for his physical and mental energy.
    * Obedience training, practiced daily, helps a dog develop confidence by giving her a sense of accomplishment. However, realize that obedience training alone will not lessen separation anxiety. It is part of an overall therapeutic program.
    * Sign up for a positive reinforcement-oriented obedience class. An advantage of group classes is that you can sometimes have another handler work with your dog in the class, thus helping lessen the dog's distrust of other people and situations.
    Create a safe haven:

    * For the dog's home-alone place, choose a safe, puppy-proofed room with light and family smells -- ideally, it should be a place in which the pack regularly convenes, such as a kitchen or family room. If there's no door, block the entrance with a sturdy baby-gate or fencing. See the "Preventing Separation Anxiety" for other details.
    * Doggie-proof the dog's room. Latch cabinets, keep plants out of reach, close bathroom doors or at least keep toilet lids closed. Keep this den-like area safe. Make sure the windows are closed, too; anxious dogs have been known to push through partially closed windows and tear through screens.
    * Bypass the crate for separation-anxious, because this usually useful tool can increase feelings of panic. Your dog will still engage in anxiety responses in the crate. He may urinate, defecate, howl or even injure himself in an attempt to escape from the crate.
    * Prevent access to items that you don't want your dog to chew, since chewing is a natural impulse to dogs, and the nervous canine usually feels an increased need to chew. Remove shoes, collectibles, tablecloths, baskets and other items.
    * Make off-limits objects undesirable if you can't move them. Hairspray is often an effective repellent. First, coat a cotton swab with the hairspray and let your dog approach it. The swab will taste bad when he licks it. Then, liberally apply the hairspray to couch cushions, wood molding and any places the dog chewed before. The spray's smell and taste will repel the dog.
    * Muffle noises, such as neighboring barking dogs or passersby, as best as you can.
    Provide physical and mental stimulation:
    * Give your dog a fun job to occupy your pet when you leave for work. Hiding small treats around the house to create a food scavenger hunt. First, teach your dog a "find the treat" command. Once he learns the meaning of the command, hide treats in clear view for the first few sessions. Then place the treats in less visible places to challenge and occupy your dog. You can set up a scavenger hunt each morning before you leave for work to provide an engaging distraction for your dog - and help him learn to accept (and even possibly ignore) your departures.
    * Make sure dog has safe, stimulating activities when you leave him alone. These include access to safe chew toys, including hollow Kong-type toys that can be stuffed with food for long-lasting enjoyment. You can stuff Kongs with peanut butter, low-fat yogurt or cream cheese, pieces of rice cake, mashed potato or sweet potato, rice, steamed chopped veggies such as carrots, and of course, moist dog food, kibble or a combination thereof. You can even feed the dog's meal via the Kong or Buster Cube. In any case, this will keep the dog occupied for a long time.
    You can reserve such interactive toys for use only during your workday absences to help the dog make positive associations with departures. Another clever, long-lasting treat: "chicken-cicles". Pour chicken broth into a plastic food container and freeze, then put the frozen treat in the dog's den 15 minutes before you leave for work.
    Enrich the dog's environment:
    * Interactive toys are great choices.
    * Play music. A CD player gives you more control over what your dog hears than a radio. But you do want something that can play continuously. Choose classical music or easy listening, since the idea is to help calm your dog. News radio can sometimes work, but not if the station broadcasts talk shows with debates or loud, anxious, excited hosts and guests.
    Note: Playing music, radio or tapes work only if the dog has learned to consistently associate the sounds with being alone in a non-anxious state. So practice playing the sounds when you are home.
    * Tape-record normal household sounds and let the tape play for comfort. Put on a continuous-play tape recording of your voice calmly reading a magazine. Occasionally play the tape when you are home so dog does not associate tape only with your departure.
    * These audio tools can also serve to buffer other sounds, which can be helpful for dogs living in apartments, condos and other attached housing.
    * A playing TV can provide auditory and visual stimulation. Again, take care to choose a channel with content that will not rile or upset your dog.
    * If your answering machine broadcasts incoming messages, phone home during the day and talk awhile to your dog. Note: while this works with some dogs, it can backfire with others.
    * Leave a T-shirt you slept in or other soft clothing item bears your smell. However, don't use old shoes, since you don't want to encourage dogs to chew other shoes that are often accessible.
    * Some dogs respond well to pheromone-based products such as Comfort Zone DAP, a plug-in item which releases a nontoxic synthetic version of calming pheromones produced by lactating female dogs.
    Keep to a routine:
    * Especially when training your dog and when trying to help reduce separation anxiety symptoms, stick to a routine. That way, your dog can eventually learn, and come to trust, that you will always come home ... and that he can count on you (or another trusted person) to feed, walk and play with him regularly so he doesn't have to worry about being starved for these necessities.
    Also, it is best to not leave a clinically separation-anxious dog for more than a couple of hours at a time until you start seeing results from a structured behavior modification program. Yes, this is not easy. But the idea is to try to reduce and eliminate freak out periods; that way, the deeply ingrained symptoms will start to fade sooner. Arrange to have trusted people around for the first two or three weeks of your dog's separation anxiety-reduction program, and practice gradually increasing the time the dog is left alone.
    * Some folks use a timer connected with a light or radio as a signal that they are coming home soon. Set the timer to go off about 30 minutes before you get home.
    Don't let your dog train you:
    * Remember that dogs tend to do what works ... or what seemed to work in their past. If your dog howls, scratches and throws herself at the door when you depart, and then you turn around, reenter your house and console the dog, you will have reinforced the idea to your dog the idea that howling, scratching and throwing herself against the door works. These anxious behaviors already are self-rewarding to your dog in that they provide an outlet (albeit it a temporary and ineffective one) for the dog's intense anxiety. You don't want to add any more "reward" to these dysfunctional behaviors.
    Before You Leave Your Dog Alone Each Day - Steps to Take
    * Feed and then vigorously exercise your dog before leaving for work. A tired dog is more likely to remain calm. Have the dog heel by your side and sit every minute or so; this helps channel pent-up tension. Vary your dog-walking route to provide extra mental stimulation for the dog -- and you - at no cost to your schedule.
    Remember, most dogs need two brisk walks of at least 15 or 20 minutes. Some dogs need more. Make sure you make time in your schedule EVERY day.
    * Fifteen minutes before you leave, confine the dog in her special home-alone place.
    * Just before leaving, give your dog a good, safe long-lasting and preferably interactive toy, such as a Kong (details elsewhere in this article) filled with kibble and peanut butter, cottage cheese or yogurt. This will help counter-condition the dog to see departures as good. A food-stuffed or food-smeared toy can occupy him for up to a couple of hours, and even distract him enough that he won't notice you're leaving.
    * Provide the dog with super-good, long-lasting treats such as sterilized bones or treat-filled Kongs. Put on a continuous-play tape recording of your voice or music.
    * Try setting up the food scavenger hunt mentioned earlier to occupy your dog.
    * Remember: keep all departures and returns low-key. No emotional goodbyes and greetings.

    Extra Tips for Anxiety Barkers

    * Do not give your dog any attention, not even eye contact, for any type of vocalization.
    * Block visual access to things that trigger your dog's barking.
    * Catch him in the act of barking. Say OFF! and use a startle technique (such as a loud clap or other unpleasant, interruptive noise). After the dog has stopped barking, quietly say "Good quiet," then allow for another minute of silence before rewarding the dog with a combination of verbal praise and food tidbit, light petting or other incentive. Stay calm, low key and quiet yourself.
    * Randomly reward your dog when he is not vocalizing in any way. This "catching him in the act of being good" requires attentiveness on your part. Pass near him, toss a treat and say "Good quiet." The dog learns that he gets rewarded for quiet behavior and gets startled for noisy behavior. These discipline techniques are not meant to be used frequently, or as the only technique to quiet a barking or anxious dog, but they are helpful in combination with other recommended steps.
    * Set up a tape recorder or video recorder to track the times your dog tends to bark. Or if you have a helpful, reliable neighbor, ask that person to listen and let you know when your dog tends to have barking spells. There is usually a pattern.
    * A diet switch can help, such as from a high-protein, high-energy food to a low-protein all-natural diet without any artificial preservatives.
    * Feed twice per day to keep the dog from getting hungry and to avoid any mood swings that can result from low blood sugar.
    * Trying feeding the biggest meal before the separation-anxious dog is about to spend a lengthy period of time alone. After eating, dogs often get sleepy. However, it is essential that you give a good, long, brisk walk before you leave him alone so that he can eliminate after the meal.
    Alternative Health Aids
    * Holistic options include valerian root and kava-kava, as well as a number of fear flower essences by Bach.
    * Rescue Remedy and other gentle, natural ingredient-based remedies are available at most health food stores and over the internet. Many people find that these safe, affordable choices help calm their dogs.
    * Some veterinarians have successfully used the homeopathic remedy Pulsatilla. It doesn't cure the problem, but seems to reduce the symptoms of frantic barking and destructiveness.
    * For more serious cases, some have had success using Melatonin.
    Other Helpful Measures
    * Find an at home neighbor or pet walker to visit your dog
    * Come home for lunch
    * Take your dog to work
    * Pet sitter
    * Doggie day care
    * Day boarding for dogs who don't play well with others
    * Neutering: it won't solve the problem, but can reduce anxiety overall since the dog will no longer be subject to raging hormones
    * Note: getting another pet usually does not help the separation-anxious dog, since the anxiety stems from fear of separation from his person and pack leader, not merely from being alone.

    Behavior Modification

    * For an effective, personalized program, contact a certified canine behaviorist.
    * Desensitization Program For Separation Anxiety
    * Follow the "Make Your Dog Work for a Living" or "No Free Lunch" programs described in books and on internet web pages.
    * A Reverse-Psychology technique. This "umbilical cord" tactic helps with dogs of some breeds and temperaments who tend to desire a little space of their own. Put the dog on a 4 to 6-foot leash, then attach the leash to yourself. Keep the dog tethered to you for lengthy periods as you go about the house doing your chores, reading, etc. Usually the dog will like being so close to his person and relax. But over time, the novelty will wear off and the dog will likely want some more space. Don't untether him until he seems good and bored with the umbilical arrangement. Practice this for a week or so, and most likely, the dog will be very glad to be given his own space ... and have some time apart from his person.
    Professional Help
    * Consult a canine behaviorist, who can develop and teach you how to apply an effective behavior modification program for your individual dog. Separation anxiety treatment typically requires desensitization and counter-conditioning programs. Some are explained well in books, but are best guided by a trainer. It often takes 10 or more weeks of consistent practice of a behavior modification program to see results.
    Certified Applied Animal Behaviorists
    http://animalbehaviorcounselors.org Animal Behavior Counselors
    * Consult a good veterinarian, one with extensive experience with behavioral issues. A veterinarian will be able to check for any underlying medical disorder contributing to a dog's anxiety. Such conditions could include low thyroid levels, improperly functioning adrenal glands or tumors, even injuries.
    For dogs with severe clinical separation anxiety, a veterinarian may recommend 8 to 20 weeks of medication to supplement behavior modification techniques. An appropriate anti-anxiety drug should not sedate your dog, but simply reduce his anxiety while you are gone, and it should be seen not as a cure, but as a temporary measure to improve initial response to your behavior modification sessions. Be aware that there is no magic bullet to alleviate anxiety symptoms. Clomicalm is sometimes prescribed, but some canine specialists report better results with Elavil (amitriptyline, an antiobsessional & antidepressant like Prozac).
    Veterinary Behaviorists -- American College of Veterinary Behaviorists http://www.dacvb.org
    * For holistic solutions, consult a holistic veterinary specialist.
    American Holistic Veterinary Medical Association http://www.ahvma.org
    * READ as much as you can. Understanding leads to solutions.
    Dog Tips is a free feature providing tips and guidance on dog behavior, health, management, safety, humane treatment and other issues of interest to dog folks. To find other current tips, see the index at http://www.paw-rescue.org/PAW/dog_tips.html
  3. foreverme25

    foreverme25 Puppy

    I went through seperation anxiety with Sadey. It was my own fault it happened. When I first got her I was so excited to have her I took her everywhere with me. Also I wanted to socialize her well. My boyfriend wasnt working at the time so she always had someone with her. Then naturally he had to go back to work. She literally ate the house. Doors, furniture, coffee machines, everything. I tried so many things to get her to stop eating everything. I tried getting a cage and she ate through that (a metal one), tried a plastic cage with door on the front and that was a joke. It lasted about 40 min before she demolished it. Basket muzzle, only because I wanted her to still be able to move her mouth, but she pulled that off easy. I eventually settled with a nylon muzzle. She had to wear it for about 4-6 months before she understood she cant eat my house. No more problems. I'm so glad its over with. It's quite the ordeal.
  4. nay1084

    nay1084 Puppy

    I have only Mild SA with my new dog. But from reading this I can tell its probably all my own fault. Thanks for posting this, its well written and in detail enough that I don't have any questions about it. I am sure practicing the new techniques will work. He's a smart dog.
  5. aineetain

    aineetain Puppy

    Separation anxiety is so tough to deal with. We had this problem with Dante and it took us 3-4 months to completely resolve the problem.

    Dante was a stray. When we found him at the shelter, we could tell that he was terrified of his surrounding because of the loud barkings from other dogs.
    Once he was home with us and he realized that we were his friends, he was deadly afraid to leave our side thinking that if he blinks he would be lost again. The first day we left him alone, we came home and found him drenched from head to toe (sweat/saliva?? we still don't know). He had tried to eat his way out the front door and the neighbor said he never stopped whining and barking.

    Crate training him was impossible because he was afraid of enclosed space.
    But we did follow the training tip of pretending I was leaving the house and closed the door behind me and gradually lengthening my absence. I would try to enter the house before he starts whining and barking. We started from ground zero, meaning from 15 seconds.

    Once he is a little more comfortable, I took him out to public places and have a friend sit with him while I leave for 15 min - 1 hour. The goal was to teach him that it is ok for me to walk away because I will return.

    The Kong toy was also very helpful. It is a must have.

    During the first 3 months, Dante destroyed two sets of double doors (which we fixed using bondo and painted over, it looks brand new) and two rugs. I threw the rugs away but this was before I learned about the Arm & Hammer pet OxyClean. It is very effective in removing urine smell from fabric.

    It has been six months since we got him and he has no trace of separation anxiety whatsoever. It was tough... but for those who are experiencing this, we just want to say that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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  6. amanda214

    amanda214 Good Dog

    I am glad this thread was recently bumped. My newest addition just started showing his seperation anxiety. He just ruined the carpet in our bedroom trying to dig under it and get out. He was crated, but now he just breaks out :( And oh, the poopy accidents!

    I have already started the desensitizing process with picking up keys at random times and putting on shoes even when I'm not leaving.

    Thanks for this thread, can't wait to get started on the other tips!!
  7. alexn20

    alexn20 Puppy

    Awesome thread!

    Thank you for this information. This has helped both me and Buddy greatly. I have posted a new thread related to this issue and I would be greatful for peoples advice on helping puppy anxiety without resorting to medication.
    Thanks again,
  8. kblack177

    kblack177 Little Dog

    omg im going through the same thing with kasper he whines til he figures out that i dont resond to it and he pisses in his crate...last night he actually shat in his crate and walked all in it and on his lil pillow now i have to get new stuff for him :( OMG SOMEBODY PRAY FOR ME
  9. Alma

    Alma GRCH Dog


    Welcome to the wonderful world of puppies. :banghead:
  10. My dog has gotten into the trash the last 2 days in a row when I left the house. Ive had him for a year now, and he did this once when I first got him but none since then? I recently changed his food, and he doesnt seem to like it as well....could this be why?
  11. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    doubt it, dog's are opportunist, if you threw something in that was really good it may have attracted his attention.. my dog is 4 and I still have a baby gate blocking access to the trash, I have no place to put it, like a cabinet so I use a gate I can drop things over the edge but she can't get to it, works great. I don't have to worry about it overnight or while I'm not watching, gives me peace of mind, and I need alot of peace
  12. Mollie's Nana

    Mollie's Nana Krypto Super Dog Staff Member Super Moderator

    We use a baby gate at the laundry room door to keep Mollie from bolting out the door when we are going in and out unloading groceries. Baby gates are wonderful, and Mollie would never attempt to jump it, she's terrified of it. I also have a (kid) bed side rail that you put on your kids bed when they transfer from baby bed to big kid bed, to keep them from falling out of bed. I put it up to keep Mollie from roaming the house at night, and she could easily jump it, it's about 18-24 inches tall, but she won't attempt it, she just sits at the door and whines. :no2:
  13. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    sorry i spaced out for a minute and forgot to add, if they got into it and got something good the first time they will go back to it, always remember "a dog will repeat a behavior they found a pleasant or rewarding experience with, and those rewards can come from you, (ie..giving attention when they bark at you or they sit and look at you at the dinner table and you give a piece of food), or from the environment..(ie...getting in the trash or grabbing your shoe and chewing or playing with it or darting out the door and being able to explore a whole new smell enriched world out front which changes everyday), once they learn how and where the rewards are it's much harder to change the habit of going back to it, and stopping it, so I tell everyone in class " if you control the environment you control the rewards you can control most of the behaviors"
  14. The op is great.thanks.
    I'm thinking of getting another APBT and am convinced I just lucked out with the first one so I'm doing my homework.The crate worked like a charm for me thankfully.(She was like Houdini with a muzzle)I lost a kitchen floor (she ripped up the linoleum)a couch,and much furniture because I didn't like the crate thing.
    Luckily I tried it because I was worried about intestinal blockage and it worked well and eventually she was fine uncrated.
    (i did have a hamster who ate out of a metal cage):lol:
    the garbage thing was a BIG issue with my dog as was the kitty box.I tried and tried to get her to stop doing it then i realized I had to modify MY behavior and I put it on the counter before I left(that didn't stop the cat from knocking it down for her but thats another tale):DThe cat box thing was a real challenge but a cat can jump a baby gate and my dog didn't bother with those either,problem solved:D
  15. Mambo Sauce

    Mambo Sauce Puppy

    wow thnx for this my dog suffers from this, i got him from a breeder in Ohio when he was 8 months old. They believe in in door dog housing so he's been spoiled alot b4 i even got him, now he follows me evrywhere even in the bathroom -_- he even learned how to open the doors in my house; they're handles not knobs...its rediculous, but i shall use this info thnx agen
  16. khubbs

    khubbs Puppy

    Wonderful Info

    This is wonderful information. Charlie, my Mom's rescue pit has recently devoloped this...I think. We have had him for about 6 years, but within the last year it has gotten out of control. We had no idea how to handle it. He has never had to be crated, so we tried crate training. He cannot handle it, it seems. We call him Houdini because somehow he gets out...every time! He will lay down in there when there is someone home though. The worst thing is within in the last few weeks he learned to open the front door...both of them...when my Mom goes out for a walk. He is walked daily, a few times a day. Gets lots of love. He also "goes" inside when left alone. My Mom is very frustrated. Any suggestions and comments are welcome. :confused:
  17. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    try to work this program
    get a child lock on the front door so he can't open it or change the handles or knobs
    make sure when he goes for a walk he is so tired he can't walk another step tongue hanging out kind of tired.
    my dog could get out of reg crate I had to put an ex pen around it and used caribiners as locks
    there are industrial stregnth crates too, someone had a link on here for them I don't recall where they were.
    but work the program and go at his pace.
  18. euchared

    euchared Puppy

    At my wits end...please help

    I think that my dog spike also has separation anxiety. I have come here for help. He is a stratfordshire terrier, about 8 months old and he weighs about 90 lbs. We got him when he was 8 weeks old. I love him dearly but am running out of good techniques. He spins uncontrollable for hours!!! He bites his tail to the point that it bleeds and the continues spinning results in my house being in a bloody mess. He had eaten the majority of my living room, pictures, shelves, carpet, curtains, blinds. He ate several pairs of my shoes. We keep all the doors closed in the house along with windows. He will try to jump out of windows to get to us outside. He has now learned to bust open our doors and pissed on my bed. Walks, distractions do not seem to matter. Even if only one family member is outside, it begins. He ate my couch and recliner yesterday. I need help please..... Like I said, I love him so much as does the rest of the family but why should I have to sacrifice my home and all my belongings for love? I feel like I am starting to resent him and it makes me feel horrible for feeling that way.
  19. Drgnrdr

    Drgnrdr Big Dog

    find a certified behaviorist (phone book, ask your vet..) they can evaluate if he's acting out or if it's sep anxiety
  20. kyler2006

    kyler2006 Puppy

    Our dog Grace has severe seperation anxiety. She is a rescue from a foundation in Tennessee, which is roughly 8-9 hours away from us. We have a large indoor kennel that she stays in only when we are gone. She has ripped up flooring, chewed holes through walls, and destroyed many of our children's toys. When we started kenneling her we found how much more calm she was. She walks right in and lays down. She has food, water, a big comfy bed, toys, and bones inside. She is only aloud the toys and the bone inside the kennel so for her it feels like a "fun" place where she gets treats. We have been trying to introduce her to being outside the kennel when we are gone, but she does not do very well. We hope that one day she will be able to be out, but for now the kennel is definately the best place for her while we are gone.

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